Loss drains us of our energy and robs us of our choices.

Grief is the reaction to loss and two of the definitions of grief from “The Grief Recovery Handbook” are:

1. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss.
2. Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior.

The Loss List  

1. Adoption
2. Begin or end school
3. Business readjustment
4. Change in church activities
5. Change in eating habits
6. Change in financial state
7. Change in frequency of arguments
8. Change in health of family member
9. Change in living conditions
10. Change in number of family reunions
11. Change in recreation
12. Change in residence
13. Change in responsibilities at work
14. Change in schools
15. Change in sleeping habits
16. Change in social activities
17. Change in working hours or conditions
18. Change to different line of work
19. Child leaving home
20. Christmas
21. Death by suicide or overdose
22. Death by homicide
23. Death due to child/parent abuse
24. Death due to drunk driving accident
25. Death of a close family member
26. Death of a close friend or co-worker
27. Death of a partner in an extra-marital affair
28. Death of a pet
29. Death of a sibling
30. Death of a spouse
31. Death from HIV/AIDS
32. Dismissal from work
33. Divorce
34. Family separation due to foster care
35. Foreclosure of mortgage or loan
36. Gain a new family member
37. Getting clean from the loss of an addiction
38. Grief from an abortion
39. Grieving a loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia
40. Grieving a loved one with substance disorder
41. Grieving someone who is dealing with severe mental illness
42. Grieving someone with a traumatic brain injury
43. Grieving someone you can’t remember (ex. a parent who died when you were an infant)
44. Grieving someone who died before you were born
45. Grieving someone you didn’t know well
46. Grieving someone you didn’t know at all (like a celebrity)
47. Grieving someone you only knew online (cyber loss)
48. Imprisonment
49. KIA (Killed In Action), MIA (Missing In Action) and POW (Prisoner Of War)
50. Loss of approval
51. Loss of control of my body
52. Loss of faith
53. Loss of hopes and dreams for the future
54. Loss of meaningful objects/belonging
55. Loss of safety
56. Loss of trust
57. Major mortgage
58. Marital reconciliation
59. Marital separation
60. Marriage
61. Miscarriage
62. Minor mortgage or loan
63. Minor violation of law
64. Moving/loss of community
65. Outstanding personal achievement
66. Personal injury or illness
67. Pregnancy
68. Retirement
69. Revision of personal habits
70. Sexual difficulties
71. Spouse starts or stops work
72. Stillbirth
73. Trouble with boss
74. Trouble with in-laws
75. Vacation

If you have had a loss that is not listed on this page feel free to add it to the comments or write us and we will update this list.

Chris Donner, Chris@Cee-Chris.com

Cee Neuner, Cee@Cee-Chris.com