In our last post, Cee wrote about Incompleteness and Hopes, Dreams and Expectations. Many of you had responses to that post. We have a lot more to say about the topic, but we thought we’d do something a little bit different today.
Here is a picture Cee took couple of years ago of a farm field in bloom. If you had been there with us that day, what do you expect you would have been feeling?
There is a surprise answer, and you’ll find it in tomorrow’s post. I hope you’ll be intrigued by it.
(P.S. If there are any farmers seeing this, please don’t give away the answer.)
(Update: here is the explanation.)
Hugs and blessings,
As promised in Chris’ post from yesterday, we wanted to give you a list of feelings to help you get in touch with what is going on inside of you.
We also wanted to feature our NEW Lists page. You’ll find our Loss List there as well as the Feelings List.
If you have not checked out our About pages, they are newly updated as well.
The longest journey you can ever take is from your head down to your heart. I know, because I’m a master at getting stuck in my own head. I can chew things over, analyze, script conversations, and generally make myself crazy trying to figure out how and why some of my life experiences happened. Some things just don’t have a “how” or a “why” that we can ever understand. Cee knows when I get quiet and withdrawn that I’ve worked myself into my little mental hamster wheel and I’m running in circles as fast as I can. And I’m getting nowhere but tired.
What we do in the Grief Recovery Method is learn special techniques that you can use to get out of your head and move down to your heart. The heart is where the real healing begins. So many of us tend to hide behind our intellect as a way to avoid feeling pain. We’re taught that from childhood. Don’t cry. Be brave. Be strong.
Our hearts are broken. Our hearts hurt and are sad. We are taught not to listen to our hearts. We are taught not to feel sad. We are taught that time will heal all wounds. But those are intellectual words that take us back out of our heart and into our head.
To heal the heart you have to take a leap of faith, feel what is in your heart, and then you can begin to heal it. Then you can begin to enjoy life, to live life, to look forward to the new day, to walk out into the sunshine and be happy. To smile. Just because it feels good.
Feeling out of touch with your heart? We’ll be putting out a list of feelings tomorrow that will help you get back in touch.
Hugs and blessings,
I think one of the hardest things about dealing with loss is allowing ourselves to feel. We are so conditioned to be stoic, to not inflict our sorrow on others, to be strong, to stuff things down, but that doesn’t remove the pain. In fact, it only makes it worse. It will surface, often when you least expect it and in ways you would never have chosen.
Take a deep breath. Let it out. Honor your feelings.
Hugs and blessings!