List of Lists to Amaze and Amuse You

As promised in Chris’ post from yesterday, we wanted to give you a list of feelings to help you get in touch with what is going on inside of you.

We also wanted to feature our NEW Lists page.  You’ll find our Loss List there as well as the Feelings List.

If you have not checked out our About pages, they are newly updated as well.

 

Hugs, Cee

email: cee@cee-chris.com

From Head to Heart

The longest journey you can ever take is from your head down to your heart.  I know, because I’m a master at getting stuck in my own head.  I can chew things over, analyze, script conversations, and generally make myself crazy trying to figure out how and why some of my life experiences happened.  Some things just don’t have a “how” or a “why” that we can ever understand.  Cee knows when I get quiet and withdrawn that I’ve worked myself into my little mental hamster wheel and I’m running in circles as fast as I can.  And I’m getting nowhere but tired.

What we do in the Grief Recovery Method is learn special techniques that you can use to get out of your head and move down to your heart.  The heart is where the real healing begins.  So many of us tend to hide behind our intellect as a way to avoid feeling pain.  We’re taught that from childhood.  Don’t cry.  Be brave.  Be strong.

Our hearts are broken.  Our hearts hurt and are sad.  We are taught not to listen to our hearts.  We are taught not to feel sad.  We are taught that time will heal all wounds.  But those are intellectual words that take us back out of our heart and into our head.

To heal the heart you have to take a leap of faith, feel what is in your heart, and then you can begin to heal it.  Then you can begin to enjoy life, to live life, to look forward to the new day, to walk out into the sunshine and be happy.  To smile.  Just because it feels good.

Feeling out of touch with your heart?  We’ll be putting out a list of feelings tomorrow that will help you get back in touch.

Hugs and blessings,

Chris

Chris@Cee-Chris.com

Loss: Cee’s Chronic Illness

WARNING: Emotional Honesty Being Practiced Here

I believe in the Grief Recovery Method so much that I not only teach it, but I practice it in my own life.  The biggest incomplete loss I have is that concerns the decades of my life surrounding Lyme Disease.  It is a huge topic for me, with many, many kinds of losses.  Up until now, I have not wanted to tackle it because I needed to know that I am on the verge of life instead of the verge of death.  I needed to know there would be another tomorrow.  Chris and I were ready for me to die.  And yet, I somehow always had the strength to stay alive.  In this past year, I have truly come to know I am now healthy.  I need to work on my loss issues to regain control of my life.

I’ve charted out my health history and already noticed patterns of illness in my life. This last week has been a rough one for me. I felt, lonely, powerless, ashamed, unhappy, exhausted, and hopeless.

On Monday, I’m going to start working Cari Dawson on my loss history for Lymes Disease.  So we will start working through those.  I don’t know where this journey will take me, but I will give you an update from time to time.  One of my favorite teachers always says, “Words don’t teach, only life experience teaches.”  I’ll be sharing my life experiences so that I can become a better teacher and also encourage you to start or continue your own journey through the losses in your life.

What I am intending to see at the end of this work is that my soul is lighter, my mind is clearer, and the smile has come back onto my face.

To be continued …

Hugs,

Cee

email:  cee@cee-chris.com

Loss: Chronic Illness

Cee and I have uncovered a lot of new ideas as we’ve been doing our Grief Recovery work.  We’ve had some huge “Aha!” moments.  But we haven’t started doing a deep dive into the “elephant in the room”, her journey through Lyme disease and the impact it has had on our lives.  That is going to be an epic saga, I think.

Don’t get me wrong, we’ve done a lot of processing of it through the years.  We couldn’t be the happy, sane, caring people we are if we hadn’t.  But chronic illness has huge ramifications, with many layers of losses.

So what is a chronic illness?  A chronic illness is a health condition or disease that is persistent in its effects or a disease that comes with time. The term chronic is often used if the condition lasts longer than 3 months.  Examples of chronic illnesses are:  heart disease, diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, kidney disease, COPD (lungs), lupus, MS, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, and our not-so-favorite, Lyme disease.  These conditions are just the tip of an ever growing iceberg, and often bring with them depression, anxiety, insomnia and a host of related problems.

Chronic illness affects the person with the illness, and also the family members who provide care or live with them.  In general, here are some of the most common losses:

  • mental and emotional wellbeing
  • physical comfort
  • a clear mind, because brain fog is normal with chronic illness
  • personal dignity and physical privacy, as people are always examining you
  • control over your body
  • financial stability
  • the feeling of having a future.  When it’s a struggle to make it through today, tomorrow doesn’t matter any more.
  • friends, as they give up on someone who is always cancelling on them at the last minute
  • independence
  • happiness, as pain and physical struggles replace it in life
  • fitting in, as you park in the handicap spot, or need a walker, or have visible scars on your body, or wear a head scarf to cover your bald head
  • the security of having loved ones in your life.  If you suffer from illness, there is the chance your spouse/child/parent will give up and walk out.  If you care for someone with an illness, there is the fear of death of your loved one, sometimes coupled with the guilt at hoping the end will come peacefully and quickly.

Cee will be applying the new techniques we have learned with the Grief Recovery Method to resolve some of these losses.  I will be working on my related ones as a caregiver at the same time.  We’ll be talking about how it feels, and what it means to get some resolution around these losses.

It’s going to be an interesting adventure.  If you or a loved one suffers from a chronic illness, please join this blog and participate in the discussions we’ll be having.  Feel free to share your own story in the comments below, but please be safe when you do so.  Remember that you are sharing with a lot of people, almost all of whom you don’t know.  Or email us privately.  We will never disclose any communication we have from you without your prior consent.  We treat your privacy as a sacred trust.

Much love and very gentle virtual hugs to all of you,

Chris and Cee

chris@cee-chris.com

cee@cee-chris.com

Discover Cee

Just in case you think we’re all about grief and loss and yucky stuff like that, I want to remind you that we have a more normal side to our lives, too. Cee was just interviewed by WordPress as an example of how to create a thriving online community through blogging.  Her photography blog is very popular, and is rapidly approaching 1 million views.

You can read the interview or bop on over to check out Cee’s photography blog, or do both!

Congratulations Cee!