Grief

We All Were Taught Wrong

I am really beginning to understand that all of us have been incorrectly taught how to deal with death. Since the advent of modern medicine, we have been taught that doctors will save the lives of our loved ones and ourselves. We see our loved ones go through excruciating pain and treatments in the hopes that they will live. And some people do live for many years. However, that is not always the case. But what we have learned in the modern world, is that death is painful, expensive and horrifying. It is something to be feared.

What we have forgotten in our modern world, is that death is a normal and natural part of life. So in turn, grieving is a normal and natural part of our lives. Through the Grief Recovery Method, we learn that grieving is a natural process and that there are some simple steps that we need to do to get back to living our lives.

Working through issues of grief is simple, but not always easy. We learn how to not regret our past actions, we learn how to forgive yourselves for unspoken words we so wanted to express to our loved ones. We learn how to say goodbye to the painful, and sometimes traumatic and hurtful memories.

Through learning this process and following the guidelines, our broken hearts start to heal. We will remember the good times and the bad times. The joy in our lives returns. Admittedly, our lives have obviously changed forever because someone we loved has died, however, we’ll find ourselves more confident and assured as time goes by.

These are a few of the benefits that people get when working through the Grief Recovery Method.  I know it has changed my life forever, for the better.

Hugs, Cee

email: cee@cee-chris.com

 

 

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  1. Very true.We all know that death is part and parcel of our life.Still majority of us continue to grieve and make the rest of life disappointing. Instead we can cherish the best part of our lives spent with the person.Well said about one following grief recovery method.Thank you for the post.

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    • When people or I grieve we get caught in-between thinking about the past and the present. And that is a very hard cycle to break. That is where the heartache comes from. Missing the person and missing the life that could or should have happened. The Grief Method helps people through it. Thanks for commenting.

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  2. Maybe not all of us were taught wrong; many religions do teach that death is an aberration from which we need to be rescued or saved. Other cultures teach that death is a natural part of the continuation of all life energy through change. Maybe part of Grief Recovery is simply understanding how you were taught to think, recognizing that there are other ways to think, and working on changing your consciousness to reflect how you want to frame your thinking going forward.

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  3. Indeed death is a normal part of life. It is inevitable. It is expected. It is as it is. Really only a tragedy when it is untimely and/or preventable (as in war and violence). Missing those who parted to the other side of the veil is natural, too. It is another passage we all must take and there’s a blessing in knowing love enough, to miss loved ones once they pass. Na’ama

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  4. I always feel John Donne in the 16th century summed up death rather well: –

    Death be not proud, though some have called thee
    Mighty and dreadfull, for, thou art not soe,
    For, those, whom thou think’st, thou dost overthrow,
    Die not, poore death, nor yet canst thou kill mee.
    From rest and sleepe, which but thy pictures bee,
    Much pleasure, then from thee, much more must flow,
    And soonest our best men with thee doe goe,
    Rest of their bones, and soules deliverie.
    Thou art slave to Fate, Chance, kings, and desperate men,
    And dost with poyson, warre, and sicknesse dwell,
    And poppie, or charmes can make us sleepe as well,
    And better then thy stroake; why swell’st thou then?
    One short sleepe past, wee wake eternally,
    And death shall be no more; death, thou shalt die.

    I should add that Donne was a highly religious man born into a Catholic family who converted to Protestantism. He clearly accepted Death as a part of normal Life.

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