(Note: no turtles were harmed in the writing of this blog.)
Are you feeling stuck? You know the feeling…. like you’re in a rut and can’t seem to get out. You wind up with the same crummy relationships. Or maybe you are in a job that is not fulfilling. Or maybe you have given up on your dream of going to Europe. Or finishing your degree. Or… the list is endless.
No matter how you try to motivate yourself, at the end of the day you are still in the same place.
You kick yourself for being lazy. You berate yourself for your lack of discipline. You feel like a real idiot when you can’t figure out why you aren’t moving forward, even with the things that are most important to you.
You spend all your energy dancing with the Should Monster. You know the Should Monster, that annoying fellow who sits on your shoulder and repeats that litany of all the things you should have done, should be doing.
I’m here to tell you to lighten up on yourself. You are stuck in grief and don’t even know it.
“But, wait”, you say. “I haven’t had anybody die on me. How can you claim I’m in grief? You don’t even know me. You haven’t heard anything about my life.”
True. But I know something you don’t.
Grief isn’t always about death. But it is always about loss and how we deal with loss. And we all have losses, many of which we haven’t dealt with all the way. We’ve become emotional hoarders, mental packrats, hanging on to all the bits and pieces of our lives.
To be continued…